Ask the Doctors: What’s A Good Beginner’s Butt Plug?

Hey Good Vibrations! Which butt plug would you recommend for a first timer man?

It seems like such an easy question, but there are actually quite a few things to consider. First off, have both of you read our how-to pages on anal sex? If you haven’t, take a look through and get some tips to make your anal adventures lots of fun. Other places you can go for more info are The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men, The Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men, and if you decide to go there, The Expert Guide to Pegging. Anal play isn’t rocket science, but there are a lot of small and easy things you can do to make sure you’re doing it right.

A butt plug has a thicker bulb and a thinner neck, so the two rings of muscle that form the anus can hold onto it. So one thing to look for is for there to be enough difference in width between the bulb and the neck that it’ll stay in. Some backdoor beginners have difficulty holding in their new toy because they (understandably) go for something slim.

Fortunately, you have some great choices. I like the design of the Bootie Silicone Anal Plug (shown above) because the neck is slim but the asymmetric bulb means that it stays in solidly without being too big. Also, the narrow base means he can put his legs together without bending the base between his butt cheeks and pulling the toy out. That means it’s super comfy to wear in lots of positions, whether you’re having sex or he’s doing the dishes. Plus, silicone is super easy to clean, which is always useful when we’re talking anal.

Pandora Vibrating Butt PlugIf he’d like to try prostate play, try the Pandora Vibrating Anal Plug. The curved tip will reach his prostate (see these pages for more about that) and it stays in place pretty well. However, during orgasm or more vigorous sex, it can slide out since the bulb isn’t a lot wider than the neck. It’s definitely got a lot of fans, so don’t let that stop you, but be aware that you might need to experiment with positions to find one that keeps it in.

Speaking of the prostate, if he wants to try something amazing, check out the Aneros toys! They’re designed for hands-free pleasure. Every time he contracts his pelvic floor, whether on purpose or simply as part of sex, the tip levers into the prostate for a really fun ride. Plus, he can wear it during solo sex, or almost any kind of sex with you as long as he’s not sitting on it. The Aneros MGX is the best one for first-timers.

If you want to add a little bling, take a look at the Sparkle Plugs. They’re stainless steel, so cleaning is super easy, and the crystal in the base is certainly eye-catching (depending on what position he’s in, of course). Steel plugs add an extra weight to the experience, but the slim neck makes it really comfortable. Or you can get the feel of cool metal without the crystal with the Pure Plug. It has a slim base, similar to the Bootie, so it’s super comfortable and it comes in three sizes.

That should be enough to get you started. Have fun!

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Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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