We Asked, You Spoke About The G-spot!

Lots of people have explored G-spot play and we’ve talked with plenty of folks who are curious about it. But we wanted to know a bit more about what people think of it, so we decided to do a little survey. We got lots of really insightful answers, as well as a few surprises.

Given how much we focus on sex education here at Good Vibrations, of course we asked people how they first discovered or heard about the G-spot. And while just over 1/3 of the 321 respondents said that they read about it in a book, just about that many discovered it during sex. When you add the 24% who found it during masturbation and the 16% who were introduced to it by a partner, it’s clear that plenty of folks are finding the G-spot on their own!

Of course, that doesn’t always mean that they know how to get the most pleasure from it, and lots of folks read books, websites, magazine articles, or watched how-to movies to learn more. We think that’s great! And when it came time to put that into practice, more people said that masturbation was how they figured it out than sex with a partner, though not by much (58% & 53%, respectively). Given that our company motto used to be “if you want something done right, do it yourself,” we’re happy to see that.

Lots of folks make G-spot play a regular part of their sexual repertoires, with over 50% doing it often or most of the time when they have sex. And 12% said they do it every time they have sex or masturbate, so it’s clear that there’s plenty of G-spot action going on. But that doesn’t mean that they’re just going for it. Almost 95% of people need at least a little warm up, with a third needing at least 15 minutes and 17% needing an orgasm first. We’ve been telling folks to get turned on before focusing on the G-spot, because it engorges so it’s easier to find and it feels better, and the numbers bear that out.

As much as the G-spot vibrators and dildos are popular, with 60% of respondents using one or both, hands and fingers are definite favorites for 80% of them. And almost 40% said that penises worked for them, though that often requires the right position.

When it came to toys, the two biggest factors were having a curve or a bulbous head, and firmness, so if you’re using something that’s too flexible, that might be why it’s not working for you. But no matter what folks used to pleasure the G-spot, don’t forget the lube! More than half of them rated it as 7 or higher on a scale of 1-10 of importance.

People were pretty varied in their preferences for finger techniques, but it’s no surprise that 80% like the “come hither” motion. (Have you ever noticed that this is the only time anyone says “hither”?) But sliding in and out, circles, windshield wipers, and pressure all have their fans, so give them a try. And don’t forget the clitoris! Using a vibrator, oral sex, using your other hand or having the receiver use a hand were all popular choices. Plus, almost 20% said they like anal penetration and 20% use a buttplug. Of course, there’s likely to be some overlap, but that means that between 1 and 2 out of 5 folks enjoy anal stimulation as part of G-spot play. If you’ve never tried it, check out our how-to pages for the info you need to do it right.

Predictably, over 80% said they prefer being on their backs during G-spot play, but plenty of folks also like being on their hands and knees, and a few said that standing or being on their side worked, so give them a try. And several people said that a pillow like the Liberator Wedge helps them relax into the position.

And by the way, don’t get too caught up in trying to ejaculate. Almost 30% said they never do and another 30% only ejaculate occasionally. So even though it happens for the other 40% often or always, there’s a lot of variation. If it happens for you, great! And it not, great! As long as you’re having fun, right?

Speaking of ejaculation, almost half of the respondents call is squirting, though gushing, female ejaculation, and ejaculation all have fans. And one person said that they call it fejaculation and a couple call it girl juice, so you can call it whatever you want.

So there you have it. There are lots of ways that people enjoy G-spot play, so even if you’ve found something that works for you, give something else a try. Who knows? You might discover a new pleasure! Looking for some tips or ideas? Take a look at The Expert Guide To The G-Spot or GUSH: The Official Guide to the G-Spot & Female Ejaculation. And if you prefer a book, Female Ejaculation and The G-Spot and The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot have you covered.

Of course, we have lots of great G-spot dildos and vibrators, as well as plenty of tips to get you started on our how-to pages. And for folks looking for a little inspiration, movies like Roulette: Dirty South, Crash Pad Series Volume 3: Through The Keyhole will get you in the mood.

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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