Want to Flirt Better? There’s an App for That

For a lot of people, going up to a stranger and flirting is one of the hardest things to do. Maybe you don’t know how to project confident body language. Or maybe you aren’t sure what to say. Whatever your flirting challenges are, they can keep you from having as much fun at a party, or finding that special someone. It’s a good thing that Violet Blue’s new iphone app TotalFlirt is here to help!

It’s a lightweight app, so it loads quickly. And it comes with everything you need to walk up to that hottie. When you start up, you’ll see tips for deciding if you’re in a good location for flirting, based on the sociability level of wherever you are, the presence or absence of icebreakers, and whether there are shared interests you can use to get the ball rolling. Once you assess your chances, you have some options.

Want to get some tips on body language? That’s there. Or if you want to approach someone, you get a series of options like “Are they alone?” Answer “yes” and you get one set of suggestions. Answer “no” and you get some different ones. At each step, you get to decide to make the next move or use one of the exit strategies. It kind of feels like one of those “choose your own adventure” games, except that the prize is getting someone’s phone number (or more).

There are some really great tips here on everything from flirting without words to using open-ended questions to encourage the other person to engage more deeply to getting their contact info. And the entire thing is gender and orientation neutral, so anyone can use it in any flirting situation. While it won’t do the work for you, it can help you feel more confident because you won’t be at a loss for what to say.

Of course, Violet’s already well known for helping people have as much fun as possible, so once you’ve mastered flirting, you might want to check out her books. Seal It With A Kiss will give you some new smooching skills. And of course, The Ultimate Guide To Cunnilingus and The Ultimate Guide To Fellatio offer some amazing oral sex tips.

TotalFlirt is available on iTunes for $.99, so check it out and happy flirting!

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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