Want I Want From My Porn

Sometimes I feel like the pornography industry is so far away from reality. I honestly can’t imagine that some of the producers end up watching anything that they end up producing. What I’d love to see in my adult movies is so different from what actually is contained in them. Is this just because movies are directed towards males? I’d say that that might be the problem, but my boyfriend is more turned off by modern pornography than I am. (In fact, when I want to review a pornographic DVD, I have to beg him since he’s so tired of all of the horrid ones.)

So what do I want out of my adult DVD? I’d love to see real sex. I’d love to see women who actually seem like they want to have sex instead of just ones who seem insatiable and never can be pleased. I’d love to see a woman who is somewhat reserved but seems to honestly enjoy what’s going on instead of just those who are spontaneously moaning while the guy is masturbating. Those types of scenes just aren’t believable. In fact, I watched a porn movie once where the girls were “kinky” and scrubbing the floor for their “masters” all the while squirming and moaning. Yes, all you women out there, you know scrubbing floors should make you hot and bothered.

You know what else annoys me about adult films? “Pop shots”. Why is this considered the end of a scene? Just because he ejaculates all over her face, we’re done? That doesn’t make any sense. What about this woman that was moaning lividly five seconds ago? She doesn’t get her own. On that note, I can’t imagine that most people would enjoy their face being covered in ejaculate. I know some women find it a turn on, but I can’t imagine the rate of enjoyment is as large as it is with adult film actresses.

I’d love to see more real bodies too. I can’t imagine that every male fantasizes about having this very skinny girl with humongous fake breasts. What’s wrong with having a natural body? Why can’t she have a bit of softness along with some regular-sized breasts? I honestly love watching bigger girls (or even just “normal” girls) in adult films. It’s so different, and their bodies always end up looking so soft, sensual, and inviting when you judge them against fake breasts with lack of fat anywhere on the body.

Having a bit of kink in my adult movie never hurt anyone. Having someone pretend to be the Dominant while another pretends to be the submissive? Hot. It has to be something both parties really want or it’s obviously fake. Having someone use a flogger to barely tap another person during sex? Not hot. I dislike mainstream porn attempting to break into kink markets by finding a random paddle and pretending to use it – that isn’t how it works. It’s obvious neither party is really into the action.

Another largely-missing aspect of a good pornographic movie that seems to be missing in the mainstream features section is a good plot. Some of the features have a decent plot, and I laughed my butt off at Pirates, but I think having more good-plot films would make me want to purchase mainstream porn more often. As it stands, most of the “plot” films seem to have a half-done plot or the acting is too bad to make me honestly believe in the plot itself. Having a sexy plot can always add to the sexuality of the entire movie – it’s an aspect of adult movies that seems to be largely untapped.

I know that these films are done by paid actors and aren’t supposed to be realistic to an extent, but what if that’s what’s missing in most mainstream porn? Yes, we have the insatiable women and the never-soft men, but what if what it takes to make a “couples” film is just a more realistic plot? Better acting? Two people who have chemistry and really want to have sex with one another?

This is one of the reasons that I’ve given up on ever being turned on by mainstream porn. I feel bad if mainstream porn is a woman’s only experience with porn – there’s so much better. Recently, I’ve been watching queer porn, and I’m impressed – there’s a lot more raw passion, sexy foreplay, and just general not-so-close-up film work that makes queer porn end up being a lot sexier than most mainstream films. I just wish mainstream films would take the hint and make their sex more realistic – it just ends up being so much hotter to watch – so much sexier.

I keep wishing mainstream porn is going to be sexy, but every time the boyfriend and I pick one up in attempt to find something good, we usually end up turned off – or at best, sometimes bored. I wish that mainstream porn portrayed sex as something that both the boyfriend and I would be aroused over – something I imagine would be fun to jump each other in the middle of the movie. Instead, I get the boyfriend whining if we can do something more amusing. Maybe my guy just isn’t the typical guy, but if these films, directed at males, are boring the males, it might be time for the mainstream market to try some new approaches. I look forward to seeing where the adult market goes within the next few years – and I know I’ll keep giving mainstream porn a try.

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