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Teacher Fired For a Craigslist Ad

A San Diego teacher was fired for posting an ad on Craigslist in the M4M section.

Can I start off by saying how messed up that is? He didn’t mention his school or the fact that he’s a teacher. In fact, here’s what he posted:

Horned up all weekend and need release

In shape guy, masc, attractive, 32 waist, swimmer’s build, horny as fuck. Looking to suck and swallow masc guys, also looking to get fucked. Uncut and huge shooters jump to head of line. Give my [sic] your loads so I can shoot mine. White, black, Hispanic, European, all good. No fats, fems, queens, asians. NO BELLIES. Have pics when you email.

While I dislike the way that lots of folks in the gay community talk about and judge “fats, fems, queens,  [and] asians”, that’s not why he was fired. And really, that ad is pretty much in line with how many of the M4M ads on the internet are phrased. And although one commentator on bilerico.com said “Now, would a straight male teacher have placed ad like that even if that’s what the straight male teacher wanted to do? I really doubt it”, there are quite a few ads in the M4W section that read pretty similarly. In any case, there are usually differences in how men who seek men for sex do it compared to how men who seek women do it. M4M ads are likely to be more direct about their writer’s interested & desires, with less apology for them. After all, gays invented the hanky code, for goodness sake.

In any case, the official reason for his being fired was “immoral conduct”. Apparently, if you want casual sex with another man, you too can be slut-shamed. The Appeals Court upheld the action, saying that “immoral conduct” depends on “moral indifference to the opinions of respectable members of the community”. Um, which members exactly are “respectable”? Or do they really mean “members of the community who are in charge”?

Bear in mind that this all came out when an anonymous parent found the ad, which means that they were reading the gay personals on craigslist. If they were also looking for some hot M4M action, I have to wonder how they’re managing the cognitive dissonance.

To add insult to injury, the court cited the principal’s reaction to the ad and her questioning “his ability to served as a role model for students”. Which wouldn’t have been an issue if she hadn’t fired him and made the ad a public record because they wouldn’t have seen it.

Take this as a warning- don’t use face shots on craigslist personals ads if your boss would freak out. Even if it means that some people don’t respond to you, it’s still a pretty big risk.


Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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