Talking About Sex: Parent’s Biggest Mistake?

Ever tried answering questions about sex or sexuality in 140 characters or less?

When I’m not writing or teaching sex education I usually can be found on Twitter as @TheMamaSutra.  It’s a bad habit, I know, but I love posting articles, quotes, and clips that relate to sex – specifically information, education, and acceptance.  A few months back I was asked this question by a new friend Female Underground and what followed was my best attempt to answer in a series of tweets 140 characters or less.

(If you are unfamiliar with Twitter, tweets addressed to a person begin with the person-you-are-speaking-to’s twitter handle.  It’s as if you were to say, “Jill, where are you?”  Make sense?)


Q:  @TheMamaSutra  What do you think the biggest mistake parents make is?

Me:  @FemUnderground Parents’ biggest mistake? Pretending nothing is going on OR making judgmental comments when they think kids aren’t listening


Q:  @TheMamaSutra one more ? What should you do when you find out your kid is having sex? Should you make it tough for them to do at home?

Me:  @FemUnderground I think that depends on so many things..for 1, the future relationship u want to have w ur own kid (& ur potentialgrandkid)

Me:  @FemUnderground parents can’t play ignorant & treat their kids like they dont need to know if they aren’t prepared to be grandparents.

Me:  @FemUnderground I didnt answer the 1st Q: talk to them. Find out if they are ok. Find out if it was what they hoped/expected. Find out…1/2

Me:  @FemUnderground 2/2 if they plan to do it again. Find out what exactly they are doing. Find out if they have questions. XXOO


Q:  @TheMamaSutra solid advice! Thank you!

Me:  @FemUnderground my pleasure. xxoo

That was it.  It’s very simple: Be there for your kids.  When they don’t do as you say (and that may be how it goes), be there for them and make sure they are ok.



The MamaSutra

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The MamaSutra

Mother of two girls. Holds a Bachelor of Science (Psychology) and a Certificate in Women's Studies from UW-Madison. Graduate of IASHS as Master of Human Sexuality. The articles you read here have goals in two main areas. 1) I strive to normalize conversations about sex and sexuality between parents and their children. To me this means helping parents accept and nurture their daughters' budding sexuality so they grow and learn to respect their bodies and accept their whole selves as they grow into strong, beautiful, powerful and healthy women. 2) Female Sexual Empowerment. Women deserve to learn about and explore the pleasure that can be felt through a full sexual life - however each of us may define that - without guilt, shame, or embarrassment.

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