Some Tips for Solo G-spot Fun

Since this is National Masturbation Month and today is also the premiere of GUSH: The Official Guide to the G-Spot & Female Ejaculation, I think it’s worth putting the two together. Sort of like chocolate and peanut butter, I suppose. 🙂

Solo sex is a great way to experiment with new ways to play because you can take your time and try things out without the expectations of a partner. That can be especially helpful when it comes to G-spot pleasures since it can be a little tricky to figure things out. A lot of G-spot newbies need to take some time to explore the different sensations and figure out what works for them. Plus, it can feel like you need to pee, at least until you learn to tell the difference between G-spot stimulation and needing to go to the bathroom. Of course, you can always take a break and make sure that your bladder is empty, but sometimes, that can be easier when you don’t have an excited partner in the room with you. And of course, since G-spot play can sometimes lead to ejaculation, it’s easy to get caught up in expectations. “Are you there yet?” is one of the more mood-killing questions, so taking your G-spot for a spin on your own can make it a lot more comfortable.

The first thing to do if you want to try it out is to learn a bit about the G-spot. Of course, GUSH: The Official Guide to the G-Spot & Female Ejaculation is a great place to start, especially if you want to see real-life people getting down. Or you could check out the book Female Ejaculation And The G-Spot, movies like Expert Guide To The G-Spot, How to Female Ejaculate, and Maximizing G-Spot Pleasure. And if you want a quick guide to get you started, take a look at our G-spot how-to pages!

Once you have the info, it’s time to get started. Take a few minutes to set things up. Get your toys out, grab the lube, and get yourself comfortable. You might find it easier to reach your G-spot if you put a pillow or the Wedge under your hips. Now, before you even think of going near your G-spot, get yourself turned on. Use a vibrator or a dildo, or watch an erotic movie, or simply enjoy the way your fingers feel on your clitoris. If you want some great tips on self-pleasuring, Tickle Your Fancy has lots of suggestions.

Now that you’re warmed up, let go of your expectations of what’s going to happen. Sometimes, the first couple of G-spot experiences aren’t much to write home about. It can take a few tries to figure out what you like and the more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it can be. If you can reach your own fingers, slip a finger into your vagina and curl the tip towards your belly button. You’re looking for a spot that feels different- it might be a bit rougher than the tissues around it, or it might be raised, or more sensitive. Most folks find it easier to do when they’re on their backs, but try some other positions and see what works for you.

If you can’t reach it on yourself (and a lot of people can’t), try a toy with a curved tip like the G-Swirl or the Siren Silicone Dildo. You want to aim the tip just a couple of inches into the vagina and pointed in the direction of your belly button.

When you find a spot that feels different, you can try a few different things. What does it feel like when you have the vibrator turned on or off, on low,medium or high? Do you like pressure? Stroking? Circles? Tapping? Sliding in and out? Or maybe you like it when you’re also stimulating your clitoris or your nipples. If you’re a fan of anal play, try using a buttplug for some hands-free sensation! And don’t forget to add some lubricant if you want some extra slipperiness.

For some people, G-spot play can be the main course, while others like to alternate between it and clitoral or anal play. You’ll need to try out all your options to figure out what works best for you, but that’s why you’re doing this solo- you can take your time and enjoy each possibility for as long as you like. And if you find that G-spot sensations are too intense, back off and switch to something that you’re a fan of.

A word about G-spot ejaculation: not everyone does it and even those who do, don’t always do it. But just in case, put a towel or a Liberator Fascinator Throe down so you don’t need to worry about getting messy.

Now that you’ve gotten going, enjoy the ride. Take as long as you like. And remember to keep trying different things out. Sometimes, you might not enjoy a particular sensation until you’re more aroused so just because it didn’t work a few minutes ago doesn’t mean you can’t try it again. Since you’re on your own, you don’t have to worry about anyone else getting bored.

Whether your G-spot explorations rock your world, are a fun change of pace, or aren’t your cup of tea, you’ll have a lot more information to share with a partner about it. And you never know- you just might find a new favorite way to play!

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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