Sex Questions from the Twittersphere: Is Queefing Natural?

Question:

The general attitude of ppl towards ‘queefing’ seems negative to me.. is it normal? Can you stop it or make it quieter? I do when I cum.. =/

Queefing (in case anyone reading this is unfamiliar with the slang) = vaginal farting, or more precisely expelling air from the vagina in such a way that it makes a sound. (They sometimes used to be called “varts.) And the reasons why people might react to them negatively are mainly twofold: 1, they’re not used to them, the queef is unexpected and throws off the concentration, erotic focus, fantasy world, etc., of the person reacting; and 2, some people have still not gotten over the urge to laugh and point at farts.

In either case: Queefing is a perfectly natural response to enough vaginal action that air, as well as whatever other relevant body parts or toys, enters the vagina, and is subsequently expelled. I’m not sure it happens to everyone who engages in penetrative vaginal play¦ but it’s very common, common enough to have not one cute moniker but two! I’m guessing the fact that it happens during your orgasm means your PC muscles, and hence your orgasmic contractions, are strong. To lessen it might mean a milder contraction (and that’d only happen if your PC muscles lost tone), and a milder contraction = a milder orgasm. So if you want my advice, learn to love it, and if a partner says anything, tell them it’s your vagina shouting with joy.

Tweet tweet! –CQ

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Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at carolqueen.com.

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