Sex Questions for Dr. Carol Queen: Urination, G-Spot, and Pleasure

Dr. Carol Queen, Ph. D answers sex questions, this one came in from Facebook.

I was wondering… why does it feel good when my bladder is full? Is it pressing on my g-spot? I’ll even start and stop my flow during urination because it feels so good, nearly orgasmic. Why does this feel good? My body is a mystery to me.

Thank you!
Curious Pee-er

Hmmm¦ it sounds to me like the Miracle of Nerves! There’s considerable variation in our neurology, as well as in the way we respond to sensation. Hence, what feels noticeable but neutral to one person might feel quite delightful to another; and someone might have much better-developed nerves serving a part of the body than someone else. As we use our bodies for various activities, nerves actually grow to support the use: that helps us get better at throwing a softball or knitting a sweater, and it helps us more easily reach orgasm once we’ve stumbled onto the stimulatory path that gets us off. So my guess is that your “sensorium “ your neurology and the way your brain interprets those neural signals “ has always been tuned more toward appreciation of the pee sensation, and your start-stop play (and any extra stimulation you give your bladder during masturbation, like bearing down, pressing on it physically, etc.) would help reinforce this tendency to derive pleasure, plus it would also support further nerve growth. Pretty soon you have a full-blown erotic relationship to your full bladder¦ just as other people have an *anti*-erotic response because their nerves send a different message.
Your sense that this all has something to do with your G-spot might be right, but doesn’t tell the whole story, because not everyone has this degree of erotic response to a full bladder even if they have an active G-spot. I’d be curious about how long you’ve noticed this pleasure to be part of your experience and whether you felt special pleasure in a full bladder and peeing even before you began to think of it as erotic “ and also how this interacts with more common kinds of erotic pleasure like clitoral or vaginal stimulation. These things might have some relationship to each other “ or not. Bodies! So anomalous, so wonderful!
If there are any neurology buffs out there who want to weigh in, by all means feel free.


Related at Good Vibrations:
The Good Vibrations Guide: The G-Spot
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Female Ejaculation And The G-Spot


Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at

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