Sex in Public

Imagine if you will… You’re a parent, you’re out on a hot date that’s getting hotter by the second, the time comes to head back to somebody’s place… except both of you have kids with sitters filling up your bedrooms.

What to do?

Sex in public is not just a kink or fetish, sometimes it’s a coping strategy.

When I was younger it was all about the thrill, or the novelty, or maybe a little exhibitionism. Now, it’s mostly about determination and creativity.

Some of the best sex I’ve ever had since becoming a parent has been in public. Top of a parking garage in the city- stars and high rise windows twinkling. The pedestrian bridge over 880 in Berkeley- nothing like screaming out an orgasm over moving cars. The music pavilion at Lake Merritt- lazily caressing while staring at the necklace of lights reflected on the water. An office building stairwell at 1 in the morning- perfect echo chamber for every gasp and moan. A grassy hill in Tilden- sunset warmed flesh and soft breezes. Coffee house couch- mixing up the scent of sex with espresso.

Yes. All good. And fun. And very very necessary. Having kids and a sex life creates a lot of opportunity for improvisation.

Airial Clark

As of May 2012, I will have completed my Master’s Degree in Human Sexuality Studies at San Francisco State University. Prior to attending graduate school, I graduated from UC Berkeley in 2007 with a double major BA in English Literature and Anthropology while raising two young sons as a single parent. At Cal, I was President of the Student Parent Association. I am a regular contributor to the Sex Positive Photo Project of the SF Bay Area and Shades Magazine. I have presented my original research at multiple academic conferences and symposiums. I will be presenting my Master’s Thesis Study at the OpenSF Conference this June. I have trained with Community at Work to be a group facilitator and am fully committed to the participatory process of decision making.

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