Sex Educator Profiles: Tracy Bartlett
What led you to become a Sex Educator?
I was involved in many leftie organizations and saw how much personal dynamics, particularly relating to relationships and sex, were interfering with the political agenda.
How did you start giving sex advice?
I was always interested in sex and human dynamics but I got a reputation as someone to talk to because I could keep a secret.
Where did you get your education?
Formally at San Diego State University (BA,MS) informally talking with so many different folks over the years. In the early 90’s I became involved in sex culture which opened yet another door.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
The relief I see on people’s faces when they are introduced to an understanding that validates their experience and/or releases them from shame.
What is your most common question?
Is it ok that I’m into……..? Everyone wants to know they are ok.
What is your favorite sex toy and why?
Floggers and dildos. They both extend the sensations possible with my hands.
Where do you teach? If you travel, what is it like? Where was your favorite place to teach? Most unusual panel or experience?
Hipster sex shops, colleges. I used to travel more but a few shops reduced the number of workshops they offer. I like travel because I have friends in the places I go, or have gone for work, so it keeps my life integrated. GV is my fave.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
The magnitude of sexual diversity and the majesty of the human body.
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
GV has been great and my roles are varied. I am (or have been) a customer, vendor, presenter. GV has been and remains the hippest shop on the scene.
What would be your number one piece of advice for someone interested in a career of sex education?
Keep open minded and really listen to people, not just talk at them.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received?
Everyone has a piece of the puzzle.
What do you think is the biggest misconception about sex?
That there is such a thing as “normal”, or how you are “supposed” to do it.
Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
I love doing workshops and I hope to turn the kissing workshop into a video.
What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Don’t follow your social training, follow your nerve endings. And don’t spend time with people who encourage you to feel shame.