Sex Educator Profiles: Mr. Munter
How did you start giving sex advice?
I was a leader in the Lesbian And Gay Organization (now LGBT) at UC San Diego when I joined a discussion panel resource for local schools. I moved to the San Francisco Bay Area in 1983 and soon thereafter started working with a group of sex-positive educators called the K’thar Sissies. A number of the leaders of these group experience creators were associated with the SARS program at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, and I was asked to help develop their participatory programs. I have since done safer sex and alternative sexuality education for groups like the SF AIDS Foundation, EROS, and the Leathermen’s Discussion Group
Where did you get your education?
The K’thar Sissies, Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco Sex Information, A SM education program I can’t remember that was in Noe Valley some years ago, SF AIDS Foundation and the Stop AIDS Project, as well as various conventions and classes.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
I feel like I’m making a difference, helping people understand my coming to accept a broader set of sexual norms, helping people enhance their erotic lives and expressing my exhibitionism.
What is the most difficult or hard-to-answer question you’ve ever received?
I’ll get back to you on this one. I recall a very personal question from my early days on gay education panels, and I recall some question I had no answer for on a Master/slave D/s panel, but I can’t recall the specific question in either case.
What is your favorite sex toy and why?
Rope. Bondage is a clear form of control for me, and rope not only has symbolic meaning, but is flexible, feels good and can be used in so many different ways.
Where do you teach? If you travel, what is it like? Where was your favorite place to teach? Most unusual panel or experience?
These days I usually teach at the SF Citadel, The Ring and the Leathermen’s Discussion Group.
I only travel if I plan to go to the event for personal reasons. (However, I did recently take a trip to Europe with a suitcase full of equipment and toys which they made us open at the airport¦)
My favorite place to teach might just be SFSI, although I’m more a panelist than a “teacher there.
My most unusual panel or experience is hard to say. I guess it’s pretty “usual to me, but the LDG and The 15 Association “samplers where you have 10 areas in a dungeon, a different topic or skill in each area and a separate teacher and “demo bottom, that’s pretty fun. The students get to wander around and learn what ever they want to learn, and participate with hands on experiences if they choose.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
The breadth of how the mind enjoys erotic experiences is a constantly expanding and interesting area of my exploration. Besides that, when I saw how wide a butt could open up to take a fist, I was pretty amazed.
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
The pro-sexual pro-feminist ideals of Good Vibrations give me support and encouragement by their very existence. The vibrator museum helps me remember how much history we have. I’ve enjoyed teaching at Good Vibes. Most of all, Good Vibrations is a great reference and referral for some of my classes.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received?
Practice with a condom when you’re jacking off on your own so it’s natural to do when you’re having sex with others. (Close second: Use lots of lube.)
What do you think is the biggest misconception about sex?
If I think of misconceptions around the world, the biggest is likely that women exist to be used as sex objects.
Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
Male sensuality training through TribalPlay, a group I started with two friends and facilitated for a year or so.
What projects are you working on now?
The Ring, a twice monthly BDSM/Leather/Kink/Fetish all male educational program.