Sex Educator Profiles: Lolo Winters
What led you to become a sex educator?
When I was seventeen years old I began volunteering with P.E.P., a Peer Education Program, where high school aged students visit high schools in the area and educate about HIV/STI prevention. The first day I joined, the woman who discovered the program, Wendy Arnold, came into the room hysterical because her best friend of 20 years had just passed away from AIDS. I knew right then that I was going to dedicate my life to sexual health education. I wanted to do everything in my power to educate about sexuality so people could live long, happy, pleasurable lives. I have continued to be a sexual health educator since that day.
What kinds of sex education do you offer?
I work at Good Vibrations as a Sex Educator/Sales Associate. I absolutely love talking to people about the pleasure aspect of sexuality. For many years I was an HIV test counselor and I find that discussing sexual pleasure vs. focusing on safer sex practices is really exciting and can make a huge difference in people’s lives. I feel that what I do at Good Vibrations is an aspect of HIV prevention because I help people learn about their bodies; what they like and what they don’t. I discuss the importance of communication and I still promote safer sex supplies. I help people to love themselves and feel good about the decisions they are making.
How did you start giving sex advice?
I have always been extremely open to talking about sexuality. My sister can vouch that I have been giving sex advice since I was old enough to know what sex was.
Where did you get your education in sexuality?
I majored in Community Studies at UC Santa Cruz with a focus on Sexual Health Education. I helped run the safer sex programs at the health center on campus, I was an HIV Test Counselor, and ran the Condom Co-op -a program that offered lower cost safer sex materials to students. I basically focused on anything that pertained to sexual health while attending school there.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
I absolutely love helping people have their first orgasm. I have helped friends, family members and even strangers discover the possibility of orgasm by teaching them about their bodies and giving them amazing books that have changed their viewpoint on sexuality. I also love creating a safe space where people feel like they can talk to me about anything because there is no judgment and I have a lot of information and experience surrounding sexual health education.
What is your most common question?
“What is your most ˜popular’ vibrator? is a question I get a lot…
What is your favorite sex toy or product and why?
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
I have met so many amazing people working at GV, along with some of my heroes in the sexual health community; Carol Queen, Nina Hartley, Annie Sprinkle. I can’t wait to meet Betty Dodson-she is a revolutionary! I am proud to be part of something that has been around for decades and helped to change so many people’s lives. It is a venue that has enabled people to feel safe to have their questions answered and to discuss things they might not have felt comfortable to discuss anywhere else.
What would be your number one piece of advice for someone interested in a career of sex education?
Believe in yourself. Being a sexual health educator is not always easy because people still have so many issues, opinions and misconceptions about sexuality in this society. But it is incredibly important and it changes lives.
Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
When I was in college I choreographed a dance show incorporating messages of safer sex. It was so much fun!! I helped to envision the entire show from costumes to poetry to Madonna. I love to dance and I love to educate, so this was definitely one of the most exciting things I have been a part of.
What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Love yourself. You are beautiful. Learn what you like so you can find pleasure by yourself or with a partner.
Where can people find out more about you?
I am teaching a workshop on March 17th at Good Vibrations on Valencia: Discover the Beauty of your Body “The In’s and Out’s” of Female Masturbation. Feel free to check it out. You can also read my blog on the GV magazine. Or come visit me in the store. I would be happy to help!!