Sex Educator Profiles: Joan Price
How did you start giving sex advice?
After I wrote my spicy, senior sex memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, people just started asking me for advice. My book was so intimate that they felt they knew me, and they’d ask me questions they never asked their doctors and tell me feelings that they never even shared with their partners. In a way, I was catapulted into the role of “senior sexpert. Now I consider myself a sex educator and I love the role. I used to teach fitness and exercise, and before that, high-school English. Although I loved those eras of my life, I must say I find it fascinating “ even exhilarating! “ to have a career writing and talking out loud about senior sex.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
I love the instant connection with people who trust me with their candid stories and questions. I love knowing that by passing along the information I’ve learned, I can help others improve their sex lives and intimate relationships.
What is the most difficult or hard-to-answer question you’ve ever received?
I guess the question that distresses me every time I hear it is, “My partner doesn’t want to have sex anymore and won’t talk about it. I always recommend seeing a therapist — going alone if the partner won’t go “ to figure out options for coping with this, but I certainly don’t know the answer. It’s a heartbreaking question.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
It’s all interesting! Goodness, what could be dull about exploring sex?
What do you think is the biggest misconception about sex?
That we lose our zest for sex at a certain age. Certainly sex changes “ it becomes more emotionally driven instead of biologically driven, our body parts and erotic responses aren’t as dependable as they used to be. But the desire for touch, for skin contact, for bonding with a partner, for soaring to sexual heights remain strong. These needs and desires are part of being human, and they’re lifelong.
What have you been doing lately?
My beloved husband, the artist Robert Rice (www.robertriceart.com) died in August 2008, and I took a year to do little more than grieve, write my blog about sex and aging: www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com, and teach line dancing: www.joanprice.com/dance.htm (where Robert and I met and danced together throughout our relationship). It’s time now to work on my new book, Naked at Our Age.
What is Naked at Our Age about?
While Better Than I Ever Expected celebrated the joys of senior sex, Naked at Our Age will tackle the challenges, with advice from experts addressing problems my readers describe. I invite anyone interested in being interviewed by email for this book and sex educators interested in contributing tips to learn more at www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2009/06/naked-at-our-age-invitation.html.
Where can people find out more about you?