Sex Educator Profiles: Isis Leeor
What led you to become a sex educator?
When I was 12, I asked my Dad a question about sex in a New Jersey Diner. He proceeded to take the Ketchup bottle, the salt and pepper shakers, and re-arrange them. Then he proclaimed in his booming voice “Ok, so here’s the penis and here are the balls…
I was mortified.
As I became a teenager my shame became curiosity. What was this magical thing that everyone seemed to have such issues with? And when you took away the instructions of the media, the trade of sexuality for something else, what was left?
What I found changed my life. My sex was warmth, pleasure, vulnerability and power. It was raw, dirty, magnificent, profane, and uniquely me. It did not fit into any sex advice in an issue of Vogue. Or in the digital magic of an online porn clip.
It erupted from the base of my spine like God spitting fire.
As I continued to open and train in anything that brought me deeper into my body, I found that I could orgasm whenever I felt like it. I don’t know why it was such a surprise to me that our natural state is one of intense pleasure. But it was. And after learning how to master my own energy, I wanted to show and guide others into theirs.
What kinds of sex education do you offer?
My favorite thing to teach right now is a workshop called Waking the seed: How to Orgasm with your breath. Everyone wants to be “sexually successful and there is a misconception in the West that you can pop out an Orgasm like it is a party trick. (Besides, most people who can cum like they are blowing bubbles, will tell you it’s not that satisfying.)
While you may be trying to prove to your lover or society that you are “hot, sexy, and desirable, what you are most likely longing for is to know the depths of who you are through pleasure. This is not always “pretty or “delicate, and you may not come out of it with perfect makeup.
Since our bodies are naturally Orgasmic, when we are truly open and connected we don’t need any stimulation to have full body electrifying orgasms. The trick is becoming open. In workshops, I am the firm, loving, and passionate guide to lead you there and hold your hand as you arrive.
How did you start giving sex advice?
When I was a little girl I told Jennifer Rybicki that you did NOT get pregnant by kissing. Then I sat down and proceeded to tell her the entire gory story of conception. Her reaction was priceless and I was hooked.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
Sexuality is such an amazing and poignant entrance into who we are. We have all had our sexual fullness be shamed, distorted, and pushed down to the point where we are only a fraction of our true selves. With coaching, mischievous insistence, or sometimes a passionate push against the wall, I see the lights go ON inside people.
What’s not to love? Sunsets and walks on the beach don’t hold a candle to the radiance of a woman unfolding or a man coming into his raw power. I also love the process of opening… the grief, rage, the victim becoming the tyrant, the kink, the awakening, the surrender, the healing and the freedom. Oh, it’s like crack.
Where did you get your education in sexuality?
I’ve studied with some amazing teachers like David Deida, Anna Marti, Charles Muir, Carolyn Muir, and various other Tantrikas. I’ve also trained in Core Energetics (a form of Body Psychotherapy), Energy healing, Thought Pattern Management, Thai Massage, Quantum Touch and I’m a graduate of the Knightsbridge Institute of Hypnotherapy and NLP.
However, like all teachers I can only take you as far as I’ve gone myself. So strap on your seat belt because that’s pretty far. 🙂
What is your most common question?
“You want me to do what?
What is the most difficult or hard-to-answer question you’ve ever received?
Part of what I do with people, when appropriate, is give them Clairvoyant readings. Occasionally I have people ask me if they have been molested or sexually violated as a child. In those moments I am so grateful to be able to access something greater then my personality and mind. That would be a scary thing to get wrong.
What is your favorite sex toy or product and why?
Oh my. I guess I’m a bit old fashioned now. I like my hands instead of plastic, glass, or metal. However, when I was a teenager I read this book by Sark and she recommended getting a vibrator. When I first got one I thought it was the best thing ever!
How do you think your book/film/website is different from others out there?
“This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill – the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill – you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes. “ the Matrix
A lot of teachers are geared towards teaching you a new skill set. I am more interested in unwrapping you and illuminating what’s already there. I also work a lot with Kundalini. My Kundalini has been active and pulsing for over 10 years and now it is easy for me to wake up the gifts associated with this energy in others.
In the process of our time together, you might learn pole dancing, how to eat like you are having sex, or some cool breathing techniques, but those things are just the structure to wake you up. My work is meant to bring about deep and residing change in every aspect of your life.
Where do you teach? If you travel, what is it like? Where was your favorite place to teach? Most unusual panel or experience?
Oh wow! I’ve taught quite a few places and I’m just embarking on another tour of the northwest. Every teaching experience is miraculous, but I suppose I’ve been the most surprised working with high school and college groups. They may start off tentatively closed and suspicious, but once you show them that you are in your integrity, they open to you without holding anything back.
With adults, when you show them who they are, they may have to sit with it a bit. After all, it takes awhile to re-arrange everything our bodies. With teenagers they just say “Thank you, and shift. In one to three hours I’ve seen the most mind-blowing changes.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
That sexuality is not some compartmentalized aspect of our lives. It permeates everything we do and every aspect of who we are. With each inhale and exhale I am making love. With each letter I type I am fucking. In each moment I am saying yes or no to sex.
(If you don’t know what the hell I’m talking about.. take my workshop.)
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
I love Good Vibrations! I ordered my very first vibrator from there and believe me, that was very helpful. I didn’t know that I could cum three times in under 10 minutes before that.
What would be your number one piece of advice for someone interested in a career of sex education?
Theory and degrees are fantastic, but if you don’t know yourself you are fucked! (And not in a good way). I’ve had amazingly intelligent women ask me what they are doing wrong when they are giving fantastic lectures and everyone’s falling asleep.
I would also encourage you to go as far into your big juicy life as you can! Know that everything you experience will become a teaching story and if it’s big and heinous and messy… even better. As a teacher, be willing to play, be willing to be wrong, and be ready for the mess that comes with people unraveling. Every birth comes with a bit of blood and placenta. 🙂
What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received?
To make decisions from who I am and not who I think I should be.
What do you think is the biggest misconception about sex?
That if sex with your partner sucks there is something wrong with you. Oh, and that everyone is having fantastic orgasms except for you.
What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
You are by your very nature radiant, orgasmic, and full. If that’s not how you are feeling now, don’t beat yourself up. Your life and the world has not prepared you for who you genuinely are. A gem covered in dirt is still a gem. There’s nothing wrong with you, you may just need a little clean. 🙂
What projects are you working on now?
I am currently writing a book and booking my 2010 workshop calendar. I’ve gotten requests to teach anywhere from Copenhagen to Iowa… very exciting!
Where can people find out more about you?
Have a look at my website If you’re interested in being part of the mailing list, drop me an e-mail and I’ll put you on the list! That way you’ll get my juicy tidbits every month which you can catch up on here.