Sex Educator Profiles: Dr. Michelle Mars & Blair Bishop
What led you to become a sex educator?
Michelle started to do research on women’s porno pleasures and realized that people really want to talk about sex. She realized that there was much more scope for innovation outside of academia so decided to take the plunge and start a sex business. She decided that she needed a male and a female voice for the business and when she met Blair at a Sexual Health Conference she knew he would be the perfect business partner.
Blair had been working with clients who had problems and found that working on the problems didn’t help people much and in fact exploring the things that gave his clients pleasure made the problems seem less important and in some instances disappear.
What kinds of sex education do you offer?
We do one on ones, cocktail parties and we talk about sex national television show called Goodmorning. We do personal training for sexual fitness and to help people learn to recognize and control their sexual energy.
Where did you get your education in sexuality?
Michelle has a PhD in gender and sexuality and taught and researched in the area for 10 years before starting Sassi-Inc. Blair is a mental health clinician specializing in sex, drugs, popular culture and youth.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
That although it can sometimes be challenging it is so rewarding. You get to guide people in a journey of personal development. People learn new skills and improve their health and well-being along the way.
What is your most common question?
Men, ˜can I really orgasm multiply without ejaculating’?
What is the most difficult or hard-to-answer question you’ve ever received?
When people come with mismatched libido problems and don’t bring the low desire partner with them. There is this big myth out there that men want sex more than women but that is not our experience. Our most common question to date is, ˜how do I get my husband to be more into sex’?
Where do you teach?
New Zealand, all over the country but it is only a small country and we have a few clients in Sydney.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
Blair has found how positive people’s experiences of sex are and how easy it is to enhance their sex lives further. Michelle loves that after all that research and reading that she can now orgasm for half an hour at a time with ease. Her latest thing is experimenting with sexual sounds to increase arousal.
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
Michelle is an out of the closet Carol Queen Fan!
What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received?
The best thing Michelle has ever learned came from one of her research participants in the women’s pornopleasures research. She said ˜you learn the most about sex when you having the best sex’. So simple, so obvious, so true but Michelle had never heard it before.
What do you think is the biggest misconception about sex?
That sex is something that comes naturally. Sex is a learned skill and we can all get better with practice.