Sex Educator Profiles: Destin Gerek
What led you to become a sex educator?
Can you remember being a small child? You start out having this belief that the world is exactly as it should be, and your particular role is simply to grow and learn how to be in it. This is often referred to as the innocence of children.
Somewhere along the line, we all have a “fall from grace.” It might happen in a sudden instance or it might happen over a period of time. But one way or another, we come to realize that hmmm… something’s not quite right here.
The first thing that I can really remember having that experience with was sex. People just seemed so weird about it. It was all over billboards, the papers, television, the movies, and yet, we weren’t supposed to talk about it.
I think that really grasping the unhealthiness of that contradiction at such a young age is what ultimately led me onto this path.
But in truth, I don’t feel like I chose this path, so much as I was called. I’ve experienced far too much in my life and in this path that goes far beyond rational explanations, that I have full faith that this path that I have been blessed with is a cooperation between me and Source.
How did you start giving sex advice?
As a freshman in college, I took a 35-hour semester-long training course to become a Peer Sexual Health Advocate at New York University where I was getting my Bachelor’s degree. Meanwhile, I was simultaneously taking my first Intro to Human Sexuality class. I spent the next three years facilitating workshops for other students on campus on topics including: Safer sex, Contraception, Sexually Transmitted Infections, HIV/AIDS, Sexual assault, LGBT issues, and even Sex toys and orgasms. And it just continued from there!
Where did you get your education in sexuality?
I received a Bachelor of the Arts from New York University. I majored in Sociology, minored in Psychology, and had a concentration in Human Sexuality. Which basically meant that I took more classes focused on Sex and Gender than on anything else. And NYU had a lot of such courses! When I was a Junior, I fought my way into the graduate level classes, as NYU also offered a Master’s degree in Sexuality Education.
I’ve also done a 70-hour training to be a Certified Sex Educator through the San Francisco Sex Information. I spent 2.5 semesters in graduate school at San Francisco State University towards a Master’s degree in Human Sexuality, ultimately dropping out realizing that the program wasn’t what I was seeking. Instead, I went to the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality for training to become a California State Certified Sexological Bodyworker.
However, this is sexuality. Half of my education came from education and training. The other half took place outside of the classroom through oh-so-diligent exploration and experimentation.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
I consider my work to be about a lot more than ‘advice’. One of the big things that I got out of my Sexological Bodyworker training was an understanding of somatic (or body-based) education. Advice is one thing, but helping people have lived experiences in their bodies, well, that’s where the real learning occurs.
I love witnessing personal transformation. I love really feeling the positive impact that I can have on other people’s lives.
What is your most common question?
“Woah! What did you just do?!??!”
Oh, you mean regarding advice and information? 😉
Right now that’d have to be: “Is it really possible for men to experience multiple orgasms?” (In short, yes!)
What is your favorite sex toy or product and why?
Right now, I have two.
The Club-Vibe. It vibrates to the beat! Throw on some good bumpin’ music and really feel it like never before! Beats, sex, vibration, and energy. Those are my favorite things in life and the club-vibe combines them all!
Tenga: Goddamn does that feel good! First ‘sheath-type’ men’s toy that I’ve really loved. And boy do I love it!
How do you think you are different from others out there?
Uh, I’m the Erotic Rockstar! What else is there to say on that one?
Where do you teach? If you travel, what is it like? Most unusual panel or experience?
I’ve recently moved to Los Angeles. I have taught, and performed in New York, the San Francisco Bay Area, Sedona AZ, Los Angeles, Portland, Black Rock City, San Diego, Baja Mexico, and both Maui and the Big Island of Hawaii. I might be missing some places. I love touring (though it’s also exhausting!).
I’m not sure that I want to answer what my most unusual experience has been. That’s a big one. But my most unusual panel? That’s easy.
At Burning Man last year, I spoke on a panel that included amongst other interesting characters: a 48-year-old gay-Ayahuasca-shaman-foot-fetishist and a celibate Hare Krishna monk.
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
How incredibly powerful consciously exploring one’s breath can be. It sounds so simple. Yet, it’s impact on my own life and my own sexuality goes beyond words.
How has what you’ve done or found at Good Vibrations helped you?
I was, without a doubt, inspired by Good Vibrations as a college student. Through GV, I really grasped that it was possible to really make a difference in a lot of people’s lives in regards to how they relate to sex. And that a good part of it, is simply modeling a positive-connection to one’s own sexuality, yourself.
What would be your number one piece of advice for someone interested in a career of sex education?
Anytime you’re looking at information that is controversial, realize that the information you are reading has a bias. Even if it’s trying to present itself as not having such. Be sure to careful explore all angles and do your best to truly understand the basis of each side.
Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
I can’t pick one. So here’s three.
The Tantric Circus, in which I teamed up with 9 other erotic educators/artists and performed shows about tantra and sacred sexuality, as well as, leading 8+ hour workshops in which we each took on a separate area and built off of each other’s expertise.
The Erotic Spirituality Training that I co-teach with an incredibly powerful (and sexy) dakini that is so committed to her path that currently she is in Thailand on a 3-month spiritual retreat with her guru of 8 years.
Orgasmic Mastery, which I have given an unprecedented level of my energy in order to create a 12-week course that men can take no matter where on the planet they are, and which I’ve witnessed change countless men’s lives.
What projects are you working on now?
I am currently leading three sets of men through the Orgasmic Mastery course.
I am developing a women’s version of the course to be launched by Spring ’10.
I am in the midst of putting together a video production company, “Erotic Rockstar Productions.” We are hoping to release our first product in 2010.
I am also working on a music project to play with the Erotic Rockstar in new ways, utilizing music and lyrics to bring my message out to the world.
Where can people find out more about you?
My personal website is: www.EroticRockstar.com
The 12-week Orgasmic Mastery course that I teach can be found at: www.OrgasmicMastery.com
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