Sex Educator Profiles: Celeste and Danielle
What led you to become a Sex Educator?
Celeste: I was interested in sex and relationships from a very young age, began masturbating early, talked with all of my friends about sex and was always a non-judgmental ear that people could go to if they needed to talk or had questions. I started out following the path of traditional psychology, but found I wanted the direct route to sexuality so I got my M.A. and simultaneously went I my own path of erotic self-discovery, taking sexuality workshops and training as a Sexological Bodyworker.
Danielle: I was brought up in quite a conservative environment. I was interested in sexuality early on but didn’t feel it would be socially acceptable to do anything about it, so I dropped my interest around sexuality and began my path with a psychology major, and masters in clinical social work. When I moved to the US I began my own sexual liberation process, and pretty soon finished my PhD in human Sexuality at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. Betty Dodson was my role model, and I knew I wanted to do hands on adult sex education.
Celeste & Danielle: Together we co-developed an extremely effective form of body-based sex therapy that goes through the body right to the core desires and wounds where healing and transformation can happen very quickly.
How did you start giving sex advice?
Our first experience was our Men’s Become an Extraordinary Lover Workshop. For both of us leading that first workshop was like coming home, stepping into what we were always meant to do. It has remained our most sought after workshop since because men get hands-on experience in learning exactly what women want and how to give it to them. The men are transformed and they and their partners are send us thank you notes!
Where did you get your education?
Celeste: I have my M.A. in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and my Certification in Sexological Bodywork from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.
Danielle: I got my B.A. in Psychology and My M.S.W. in Israel and then moved to the States and got my Ph.D. and Certification in Sexological Bodywork at the Institute for Advanced Study Human Sexuality in SF.
What do you love about giving sex advice?
We both love how profoundly and quickly it changes people’s lives, especially when done in an embodied and experiential way. Sex is such a taboo topic and there is so little really good information being given out, when we tell it like it is and give people actual experiences that help them better understand themselves and their desires, people really begin to get a clear picture of who they are and what they want from sex, intimacy, relationships and life in general.
What is your favorite sex toy?
I guess in some ways, we are a bit traditional (if you can say that sentence in response to the question, “what is your favorite sex toys”). We both like the Hitachi Magic Wand because sometimes, you really need that full blown buzz to get the orgasms rolling. The only drawback is that, immediately after, it can be a bit difficult to have an orgasm another way because the sensation is so strong though we have not found this to be a lasting effect. When it’s time for some buzz, the Magic Wand combined with intercourse, anal sex or strong fingers on the G-spot is the way to go!
What was the most interesting thing you learned in your exploration of sex?
We think there are two things, the first is physiological, the second psychological. Physiologically, the body changes and, more importantly, can actually be deliberately changed to channel more pleasure or to experience pleasure from different sources. When we set out on our journeys of sexual discovery, we had no idea that we’d end up having G-spot orgasms during intercourse, anal orgasms, squirting or an orgasm that originated and spread from the heart to the rest of the body. Now we teach men and women how to do that for themselves. Psychologically, it is that each of our life wounds and triumphs are part of sex and played out in sex. The great news is that our healing can come from sex as long as it is done within the safety of boundaries and communication!
What are your experiences at Good Vibrations?
We love teaching at Good Vibes, we teach couples how to have hot threesomes and increase intimacy, we teach women’s erotic empowerment and we teach men how to be great lovers to women. We also send our clients to buy their sex toys there. It is such a profoundly comfortable and welcoming environment, without an ounce of judgment to be found. This is exactly what people need for their sexuality to blossom.
What would be your number one piece of advice for someone interested in a career of sex education?
Our number one piece of advice is to really tune in to your own personal gifts and create the kind of education that YOU (not your next door neighbor, or best friend from college) will be good at. It is great to take people’s advice, but only if what you do with it is let it land in your own body and see what parts of it fit and what don’t. Only you can know how you will best educate others and people can only receive the gift that you are giving if it was really yours to begin with.
What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Sex is FOR YOU! If you don’t know this yet, go out and find out how and why it can be for you and not something you give to someone else in exchange for something you think you want. Connect with your desire FOR YOU, have amazing orgasms FOR YOU, don’t have sex with anyone else unless it is FOR YOU. We love to help women find out why and how sex can be for them!
What projects are you working on now?
We are currently working on a book for men on how to feel empowered and be the best lovers they can possibly be!
Where can people find out more about you two?