Quickie question: What is a blended orgasm?

Orgasm isn’t about an on-off switch hidden somewhere in your body. It’s not even an either/or thing, like Freud thought — clitoral or vaginal? (We could also say penile or prostate, of course, though we don’t know that Freud asked that question.) Many sex therapists teach their clients how to enjoy a blended orgasm. No, that’s not an awesome new mixed drink that makes you say “I’ll have what she’s having!” — it’s a sexual strategy that lets you maximize your arousal and response. The resulting orgasm is easier to have and can be stronger or more pleasurable than a one-off plain orgasm — though I am not insulting any sort of orgasm here, believe me! They’re all good… some are just, perhaps, better than others.
Here’s how this works:
You have separate nerve pathways, one that animates the erotic sensations of penis and clitoris, another that is responsible for the pleasurable sensations of vaginal fullness and motion, the G-spot and the prostate. Other erogenous areas — nipples, etc. — also are fed by nerves, separate ones. When one source of erotic pleasure is added to by another, separate one — clit or penis plus nipples, penis/clitoris/vagina plus anus, even the old classic, clitoris plus vagina — the resultant stimulation is higher and the orgasm you may have as a result is powered by more of your neurology. The orgasm happens in the brain, anyway, so all parts of your body might have their own sensation-feeling part to play. Blended orgasm: the more, the merrier!

Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at carolqueen.com.

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  1. Jack Hunter says:

    Sounds like I am going to have to start working on my multi-tasking skills.