The Power of the Erotic by Pamela Madsen
We like these musings by Pamela Madsen so much, we’ve decided THIS will be the name of her column from here on out: The Power of the Erotic!–CQ
We have put the erotic in a box. Say the word erotic and many people conjure up images of partner sex, pornography and lap dances. Nothing wrong with that. But what if the erotic could be seen through a different lens? What if the erotic (sexual energy) could be harnessed to power up all aspects of your life?
What if you could get in touch with the erotic as life force energy and use it not only as fuel for orgasm, but also as fuel for your creativity and every other aspect of your life? What if your erotic knowledge is also a potential inner guide, like a sensually fueled GPS navigation system that you can tune into?
Most people want to live a fully expressed life. The question always comes down to: How do we get there? My belief is that you already have what you need and it is held in your body. The issue is that this inner knowledge and power has been carefully suppressed. The erotic is so powerful that throughout the ages, people have been frightened of it. We have been cultured out of our own powerful inner knowledge because once we are connected to our inner guides and have access to the erotic as life force energy – we are harder to control. We have been shamed into a kind of sexless submission.
If we can learn to live from inside of our bodies outward to the world, not being frightened of the power of our own erotic energy to guide us, we will be able to get in touch with our deepest feelings and let go of the numbness that afflicts so many. Being fully empowered and connected to our bodies is an act against oppression. It is through this inner knowledge that we can get in touch with our desires and create change not only in our lives and the lives of our families but also the world.
What we want to create in our lives begins with our ability to know what we want. The foundational step is to know your desire. When we learn to harness our own erotic engine we can dare to know our desires and to be powerful in our lives.
Change is scary and but it is only through change that we can grow. You cannot harness someone else’s erotic energy for very long. You can use it to inspire yourself to find your own. But we each need to know, cultivate and access our own inner flame.
And in order to do that, you must first be willing to believe that you have it.
Pamela Madsen, M.S. is an Integrative Life Coach Specializing In Women’s Issues: Sexuality, Fertility, Body Image, Wellness and Rejuvenation. Pamela is also author of the best selling memoir, Shameless:How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked Found True Pleasure and Somehow Got Home in Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, Jan 2011), and founder of The American Fertility Association and Back to The Body: Sensuous Retreats for Women. Her websites http://www.PamelaMadsen.org, http://www.backtothebody.org and http://www.thefertilityadvocate are breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers.