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poly speed dating

I’m sure you’ve seen all the speed dating events out there in the world, but if you haven’t, here’s how they work. For a short time (2-5 minutes), you chat with your “speed date.” If you like the person, you generally mark that on a card provided by the organizer. If both people indicate a wish to continue the conversation, you’re given each other’s contact info and you can take it from there. It’s a fun way to meet lots of people, although you don’t get much chance to get beyond first impressions.

Ever since I first heard about speed dating, I noticed that the events are mostly for heterosexual folks and I wondered if anyone was going to try to create something similar for anyone else. And thank goodness that I live in the San Francisco area. There’s kinky speed dating (although that doesn’t seem to have happened for a while), queer speed dating (which is coming up on July 10, but it looks like a bi-monthly event) , and now there’s poly speed dating (coming up on July 14).

Yes, people in polyamorous and open relationships can have a night of speed dating too! The organizers seem to have some system to accommodate individuals, couples and groups. Since polyamory tends to be a bit more logistically complex than monogamous relationships, I’m sure they’ve got their work cut out for them. But what a fun way to spend an evening.

By the way, if you’re curious about polyamory, you might want to check out Tristan Taormino’s book, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. I’d definitely suggest checking it out before going to the event.

Whatever your relationship structure, speed dating can be lots of fun. So get on out there and have fun!

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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