Making Time for Masturbation
If you don’t know, May is Masturbation Month
This means it’s time to talk about how self-pleasure fits into a healthy, happy life! The answer, of course, is as often as possible. Here’s a quick video of our staff sexologist, Dr. Carol Queen discussing the history of Masturbation Month with our good friends at O.school!
The health benefits of masturbation have been written about already and apply to everyone, but they’re worth repeating. After all, masturbation has historically been a very negative thing, and we are still working on changing that narrative.
All sorts of anti-masturbation ideas have come and gone, including that it can result in blindness or excessive body hair growth. It was even believed that the desire to masturbate can be managed by a bland diet, resulting in familiar snacks like Graham Crackers and Corn Flakes.
But as it turns out, masturbation is so natural that most mammals do it, and there’s lots of good reasons for you to join the fun!
Endorphins are an amazing chemical the human brain naturally produces that can help with stress, pain, and depression. It’s the “feel good” drug that comes pre-installed. Tasty food, exercise, a favorite smell, or sex and orgasms are among the many things that can help increase endorphin production in the body.
So the next time life is getting you down, don’t forget that the ideal stress reliever is literally right at your fingertips!
And masturbation isn’t just good for your mood, it’s good for your sex life. For those who struggle to orgasm with a partner or are still learning what they like in bed, self-love is the best pathway to learn what your body likes and how to get yourself there. Even better, the more orgasms you have, the better your body gets at having them. Yup, that means that the more solo orgasms you have, the more likely you’ll be to have ones with a partner. As the saying goes, knowledge is power!
And no, you can’t get addicted to vibrators. If you ever feel you’re becoming too reliant on one style of masturbation to get off, just try something different for a while until your body readjusts!
Best of all solo sex is a low-effort, no-clothes-needed, calorie-free option to raise your heart rate, get some cardio or Fitbit steps in, and get those endorphins flowing. Even better, taking the time to reconnect with your body can empower you to feel sexy and confident! Whether you’re hoping to get flirting with your crush or revamp your libido for your long term relationship, self-love increases your confidence and can lead to better partnered sex.
So where does masturbation fit into your life? Some people prefer to get off after a long stressful day and will enjoy the comfort of their bed and some PJs (or nothing at all) to unwind and decompress. Grab a massage bar for a self-care treat. Or even head to the tub with your favorite bath bomb and one of the many waterproof vibrators available.
Others might be morning masturbators, preferring to kick-start their day with a boost of endorphins, energy, and personal pleasure. Some easy-to-clean-up water based lube can help with that.
Whether you want a quick orgasm or a sensual experience, You might even do both! The important thing is to remember that not only is masturbation a good thing for your emotional, physical, and sexual well-being that you should never be ashamed of. It is WORTH IT to make the time for regular self-loving. Build it into your days off or lazy nights. Make it part of your self-care routine. Plan it around your work outs or your job. Find yourself a special vibrator to jazz up the experience. Pull up your favorite porn or tap into your most far-fetched fantasy. Whatever amount of masturbation makes you the happiest, healthiest, most satisfied version of you, that’s the right amount.