Introduce Your Partner to Kinky Sex

So, you’ve been dating two months and think it’s time to bring in some blindfolds and ice cubes? Or maybe it’s been six years, and you want to try playing with some cuffs you picked up a local toy store. Either way, it’s definitely a scary thing to confess to your partner that you want to try something kinky. How will they take it? Will they confess something to you as well? Will they want to break-up? Well, I have a couple pointers that will help you with this huge step in your relationship.

First off, make sure you pick a good time. While your partner is watching television is not a good time. You want to have his/her attention all to yourself, and be able to sit there and have a long conversation if it advances to that. If you think you’ll be too nervous to physically say it, feel free to write it down on a small piece of paper just to get that initial barrier down, but be prepared to talk about your fantasies afterwards.

With the popularization of sex toys, another great way to tell your partner about your fetishes it to pick out a fetish board game. With all of the different choices out there, you can play a board game with your fetishes without having to confess them. Just tell your partner you want to play a game with them, and go from there. You can safely explore your fantasies and get a taste of other fantasies. Plus, maybe you’ll figure out a kinky secret that your partner has as well.

If you want to go the blunt way, go ahead and purchase a cheap toy of what you’d like. (Cuffs for restraint, whip for impact, rope for tying up, etc.) Present it to your partner before the play starts, and explain to them fully what you’d like to do with them. Let them enjoy it, and reassure them that you both will have the right and option to stop play at any time if either of you gets uncomfortable. It’s imperative that you present it as friendly and as comfortably as possible so neither of you has to feel uncomfortable.

Another option: Pornography. With all of the kinky porn that exists out there, it’s easy to find something that’s still pretty normal but includes some bondage or other kinky aspects. If you and your partner make a habit of watching pornography together, pick out a fun kinky one beforehand. (You may want to check reviews online first; just to make sure it’s playfully kinky instead of creepily so.)

Don’t like watching pornography together, but do enjoy watching movies? Pick up “Secretary. It’s not pornography, but it is kinky. The secretary learns to do her job and become a better person through being spanked and controlled. It’s a very vanilla movie, but a great way to judge your partner’s reactions to something kinky.

Yet another way: Just “happen to leave those kinky items of yours out on a dresser or other obvious place. When your partner asks about them, be sure to explain why they’re there and what you’d like to do. It might make you blush, but it’s for the best of fun.

You could also try playing “If you tell me yours, I’ll tell you mine. Just generally: Both of you promise to tell your favorite fantasy. If you both have to be embarrassed, it won’t seem quite so threatening. Plus, you might get some hot sex or find out his/her fantasy that you never knew before.

Of course, after you present your ideas, be prepared to compliment and reciprocate for your partner. You don’t want them to feel like they had to do it, so give them a compliment. Let them know you appreciate it. If they confess their own fantasy, give it a try with them. All’s fair in love and war, right?

All of the above ways are great ways to tell your partner that you’re kinky. You should pick a way that works best for you and your partner. I can give you the ideas, but you will ultimately have to choose which way you think would work best for you both. If all goes over well, though, be prepared for lots of kinky, sexy fun!

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