The Internet of Things Wants to Participate in Your Sex Life!
It’s only a matter of time until all your sex toys can talk back, right? At least that’s how it seems on some days, when our refrigerators, cars and thermostats are all getting smarter all the time. Sex toys are, too, and there are also apps and other new tech options for people who want to spice it up, shake it up, or learn more about sex.
Lonnie Barbach is a big figure in the history of Good Vibrations; not only did she write one of the most important books ever about female masturbation (For Yourself), she also ran the Pre-Orgasmic Women’s Program at the University of California-SF medical school campus in the 1970s, the place where Joani Blank got the idea to start Good Vibrations. Lonnie is still a practicing couples’ therapist in the Bay Area, and on the side she’s developed an app called Happy Couple that allows you and your partner to get to know each other better. What don’t you know about your partner? Find out in just 3 minutes a day with this fun-filled quiz-style game. Each day, answer 5 questions for your partner and 5 for yourself! Just like your own pocket version of The Newlywed Game.
Another great new app is Pillow Play–an LGBTQ positive intimacy building app. Pillow Play is a playful intimacy app for open minded couples to feel closer. Like a guided mediation but for couples, you and your partner pick an episode, press play, and follow along to audio-guided adventures together in the comfort and privacy of your own bedroom. It extends foreplay, improves intimate communication, and inspires creativity.
Darren, Pillow Play’s founder says, “My partner and I were doing well, but after a few years we didn’t have that passion and desire that we used to have. We still love each other, but the sex just isn’t as exciting. There are books to read, but that takes time. Workshops to attend together, but that’s embarrassing. Some of my friends who were in the same position were cheating on their partner, not cool. Anyway, we were using one of those 7 minute workout apps and it made me think – why isn’t there an app like this but for our relationship, not just the body?… How about an app that bottles up some of the most potent ways to nurture intimacy in short, fun exercises to help us feel closer? This inspired me to pursue Pillow Play.”
One of the most intriguing tech-enabled sex innovations is the recently-launched OMGYes project: it is a touch-screen-enabled site that lets people practice varying kinds of touch techniques on vulvas—well, images of vulvas, on your smartphone or tablet device, that will respond with increasing signs of arousal if you’re doing it right.
These are paired with many individual video interviews with women talking about their sexual and pleasure responses. Nothing else like it EVER—it’s sexy, educational, and fun. Until a robot crawls into bed with you and lets you practice your moves, you won’t find a more amazing tech-enabled opportunity.
And Good Vibrations has been participating in the testing phase of the up-and-coming Lioness smartvibe, created by a Berkeley-based team of award-winning engineers and designers who seek to use new tech to help users get a better sense of their own sexual responses. Like a fitness tracker for your bits, Lioness uses biometrics that measure temperature, wetness and pressure to help users learn more about their sexuality: Not only does it keep track of arousal and speed to orgasm, it lets you program the vibrator using that knowledge and compare yourself statistically with others.
Can’t wait for our robot overlords to improve our sex lives? Two fine sex toy companies are making app-enabled vibrators. Download the app onto your smartphones and use them as remote controllers to play with your partner whether you’re in bed together or they’re in the next room, town, state, or across the globe… as long as you have the bars. It gives the word connectivity a whole new meaning! OhMiBod, pioneers of music- and sound-responsive vibration, made the first one, the BlueMotion. The already-popular We-Vibe followed, expanding on their revolutionary remote controlled couples vibe and now include the We-Play feature on many of their other products as well. And tomorrow? Who knows what our vibes and smartphones will be able to do together?