Getting Into Position: Pillows to Make Anal Sex Easier

A lot of people have been enjoying Anal Pleasure Month but I’ve also been getting quite a few questions about making anal play more fun. Since being able to relax is one of the three key ingredients for anal pleasure, getting the right position can make all the difference. That’s because anal play isn’t about stretching the anus open, it’s about the receiver being able to relax it open. If you’re working your muscles in order to keep your legs in the air, that can make it more difficult.

Of course, many of the positions that work for intercourse or hand jobs work well for anal play, but they often need to be adapted a bit. For example, if you’re on your back, adding a little extra support under your hips will lift you those few crucial inches higher and give easier access. Regular pillows sometimes do a good job, but they tend to get squashed flat, leaving you without the height you want. And if you’re using a narrow cushion, it’s easy to slip off the side.

I’m a big fan of the Liberator Sex Furniture, especially for anal play. The dense foam doesn’t compress but it has enough give for comfort. The microsuede cover keeps things from sliding around and it comes right off so you can toss it in the washing machine. The Wedge is a great one to start with and it’s excellent for face up or face down action. The Ramp is quite a bit bigger and gives you more full-body support, so you can totally relax and enjoy the experience. If you want something a bit smaller (and easier to store), check out the Jaz Mini Sex Cushion.

Anal play often works a bit better when your hips are above your shoulders, so getting on your elbows & knees might work better than hands and knees. And if the receiver during anal intercourse wants to be on top, they can control the angle and depth of penetration by resting their hands on the bed or on the giver’s shoulders. Even small changes in angle can make a big difference in pleasure.

Remember- anal play isn’t complex, but you do need to know what you’re doing in order to make it safe and fun. We have lots of info to get you started on our website. Plus, there are plenty of really useful books and movies that’ll give you all the info you need to enjoy it. Check them out and have fun celebrating Anal Pleasure Month!

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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