At the heart of our critique: concern about the notion that there’s such a thing as definitively normal sex (there isn’t), and the belief that shame around sex (masturbation, porn, desiring sexual variety, etc.) is often the reason people feel distressed about their sexual experience. Unhealthy behavior does exist, and compulsion can be one version of it. Some people do need help. But that help can come without embracing the notion of sex addiction, and it can be sex-positive.
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When we’re talking about any subject that has cultural constraints around it — whether that’s sexual trauma or sexual desire or so very many other aspects of our lives — sometimes we need a place to be curious, to write into our own wondering and discovery, knowing we are going to be free of the sorts of reactions that even those who love us the most can give us. We are free to wonder, to explore and investigate, to have all the answers, to use code or metaphor, to be unsure, to be contradictory — in short, to be our full and complicated selves.
What does health policy have to do with sex? Everything from birth control to HIV prevention and treatment to access to medial care if you leave your cock ring on too long, that’s what. There are a jillion ways sexuality intersects with medicine; … the more people who lose access to affordable health care, the more sexual sequelae there will be to common and uncommon ailments.
“Getting out of our heads and into our bodies allows us to access our intuition, and learn how to interpret all of the non-verbal signals we receive all the time.”