There are a variety of reasons why it might be hard to orgasm at all during any kind of partner sex.
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As long as parents are essentially silent and schools provide bad sex ed that does not answer a teen’s perfectly reasonable sex questions, youth will figure that the most effective way to get questions answered is by *watching some sex*, but they will likely not absorb the message that this is scripted and directed sex, akin to watching car chase movies to learn to drive a car.
Sex is often, in our society, put into a framework that puts extraordinary focus on penile insertion into a vagina. Of course that is, for many people, a highly pleasurable and desired part of sex—but some guys who ejaculate quicker than they want to may develop especially high levels of anxiety about this because for them, intercourse is THE sexual activity, not one of many ways to enjoy sex.