Carol Visits the Ladies of Lady Brain

Long, long ago, I was booked on a radio show (or maybe it was a podcast then) called Lady Brain. It was a call-in, so I had to imagine rather than gaze upon the two spunky women who peppered me with questions and comments about whatever-it-was-we-were-talking-about. Sex something, of course, but what? Whatever it was, their questions were clever and entertaining and I had a great time. Trying to delve that far back into the past (to, like, 2009 or something), I think our chat might have had to do with the G-spot — and I recently was lucky enough to reprise it LIVE in studio with the Lady Brain stars, Steph and Lauren. They’ve taken over the Saturday night spot on our hometown progresso-radio station, Green 960 (progressive, that is, until Stanford has a basketball game, and then inexplicably they put that on the air instead of the groovy commentators I expect when I’m driving home from work). So I recently took to the dark streets to visit them on their very first night on the (new, Green 960) air.

The great thing about going to a radio studio is that while you wait to be ushered into the inner sanctum where the hosts are, you can hear them and the engineer bantering between on-air bits. I’ve been in lots of radio studios (and called in to enough shows — I got Mancow to hang up on me, and that’s no small feat, plus I look forward to my monthly immersion that is The Dildo Whisperer with Derek & Romaine on Sirius) — I know that radio is fast-paced and action-packed, no matter how smooth the banter that emits from your speakers. So I had fun listening as I waited for my turn — I believe I was in the exact same studio in which we recorded parts of Gush, my new Pleasure-Ed movie about the G-spot in with the purrfect Michelle Meow, our answer to a talking head shoot — instead, we did a radio call-in show of our own, which Michelle hosted. It was a flashback! and there I was on a Saturday night, waiting to talk about that very movie with the Lady Brain ladies.

Lauren and Steph were doing a call-in quiz using songs mentioning Saturday night, and that was my first clue that they’re musical as well as sex-positive — my second clue was the live band they then hosted in-studio. The Gentlemen serenaded them, me, and all of Radio Land, and then it was my turn to see the mysterious gals with my own eyes. Yes, they were worth the wait! And then we covered the, ahem, waterfront about female ejaculation and the G-spot, including a digression into one of my favorite things to tell  people who worry that ejaculate is urine — in the first place, it generally isn’t, and even when a woman ejaculates WAY more than her female prostate gland would hold, consider all the mammals who include pee in their mating rituals! “Without pee, porcupines would hardly get together at all!” I declared, or something equally wacky. Steph and Lauren rolled with it, thank goodness.

And this is not surprising, because Lady Brain has been called “Car Talk meets Cosmo” — this pretty much says it all, suggesting irreverent yet encyclopedic knowledge about things lady-ish. I don’t know that I know as much about shoe shopping and stuff as they probably do, but I was in awe of their non-gender-burdened Saturday Night rock song-encompassing brains, and I look forward to talking with them about some other cool thing next month. Mother’s Day? National Masturbation Month? Ladies, I’m in, and I may even manage to discuss it without talking about pee.

Hear Carol and the Lady Brain ladies talk about the G-spot!

Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at

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