Behind the Good Vibrations Counter: Victor

Our Sex Educator-Sales Associates are the folks you see on the sales floor or on the phones here at Good Vibrations. They’re full of amazing information, useful suggestions, and helpful tips & tricks to make your sex life better. And since I get to meet all of them, I can tell you that they’re some of the most awesome folks you could meet! So I decided to invite a few of them out from behind the counter to share some of their stories!

1) Being a Good Vibrations SESA isn’t like any other job. What inspired you to become one?

I had been working at farmer’s markets, loving the job but realizing I didn’t really have extensive knowledge (I don’t know which potato makes the best soup-I’d-never-heard-of-anyway!). Checking in with myself, I realized I didn’t have the knowledge because I wasn’t personally invested in the process; I am potentially embarrassingly not adventurous or interested in the kitchen! I applied this realization to my job-seeking process, and it occurred to me that sexuality and sex in general are topics I feel comfortable and invested in talking about. The stars aligned and I was offered a position! I’m also sure my interest had to be partially motivated by growing up queer/trans and having nobody to talk to about it, or my southern abstinence-based sex education (similarly I might blame the mandatory Home Economics class for my disinterest in cooking).

2) What’s one of the best things about being a SESA?

There are so many! I really like helping people find what they are looking for. This sounds simple but I think GV is unique in that we are actually committed to giving customers accurate information and suggestions so that they can make informed decisions versus pushing product. Many adult stores I went to in my earlier years had 2 approaches: either behind one of those watch towers the whole time or trying to talk you into buying things you don’t want. I love seeing customers leave totally excited, having had their questions answered.

3) What are one or two tips or ideas you share with people a lot? Tell us a couple of your favorite sex toy tricks.

A thing I like to share about strap-on play: putting a condom on the dildo before weaving it through the harness makes it just glide through! No more intense friction/wrestling matches required!

Also, if a condom is feeling a little tight at the head of the penis, there are a couple of things you can do: 1. try a condom with more head room or 2. add a couple drops of lube in the tip of the condom before putting it on. Helps reduce friction!

For those who are actually wanting information beyond our scope (i.e. referrals, specific information about certain sexual practices, etc.), San Francisco Sex Information is a great resource.

4) How has being a sex educator changed how you think about sexuality or gender? Was there anything that surprised you about that?

In so many ways! Which was surprising in itself. One time I heard Carol Queen mention something about “7 billion sexualities,” and I really do believe in that term. Our proclivities and identifications and what they mean to us are pretty darn specific and unique. I’ve been consistently surprised by how communication across assumptions can be so difficult!

5) Anything else you’d like to tell our readers?

Thanks for reading! Also I want to state that, for the record, we love reviews and feedback about everything we have in our stores. Our website ( lets people review things, but if you’d like to tell us in-store, we like that, too! It really helps us in expanding our knowledge for talking about those things with future customers. It can also help us help you figure out what else in the store you may or may not be interested in 🙂

Dr. Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman is the Education Program Manager at Good Vibrations. He also writes, blogs, teaches workshops and university courses, presents at conferences, and trains sexuality educators. He’s certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, and loves geeking out about sex, relationships, sex-positivity, love and shame, communities of erotic affiliation, and sexual practices and techniques of all varieties. Follow him online, on Twitter at @charlieglickman, or on Facebook.

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