Behind The Good Vibrations Counter: AJ Jones
Our Sex Educator-Sales Associates are the folks you see on the sales floor or on the phones here at Good Vibrations. They’re full of amazing information, useful suggestions, and helpful tips & tricks to make your sex life better. And since I get to meet all of them, I can tell you that they’re some of the most awesome folks you could meet! So here’s what AJ Jones had to say about being a SESA!
1) Being a Good Vibrations SESA isn’t like any other job. What inspired you to become one?
I’ve always found sex really interesting. It’s the one activity we all partake in, yet it’s something that isn’t really talked about. We don’t hear about sex in the mainstream media unless it’s “10 ways to make your guy squirm!” on the cover of a Cosmopolitan, or more recently, the whole Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon. I used to joke with partners about how sex was the only thing I was good at, so I better figure out some way to make a living out of it. So, I guess I sort of did just that.
2) What’s one of the best things about being a SESA?
Other than getting to try out sex toys? Probably the moments when you ACTUALLY help someone improve the quality of their sex life. Most of being a SESA is talking about subtle differences between lubricants, showing people where the “rabbits” are, and informing customers that they can only use toys anally if they have a base, but once in a while you get to actually make a solid difference in someone’s sex life. You get a chance to destigmatize things that people feel uncomfortable about. And sometimes, you’re the first person someone has talked to about sex, their body parts, fears, insecurities, and you get to tell them, “Yeah, that’s an experience most people have.” Ya know, just helping people unpack their sexual baggage, one dildo at a time.
3) What are one or two tips or ideas you share with people a lot? Tell us a couple of your favorite sex toy tricks.
When a water-based lubricant gets sticky or tacky, it’s because the water has dried out and the lubricant is still there. You can use a spritz of water or some saliva to revive the lube, so you don’t have to use an entire bottle in 10 minutes.
Just because your Aunt, your Mom’s best friend, your neighbor, your Zumba instructor, your brother’s roommate, and your barista at Starbucks like something, that doesn’t guarantee that you will too. Bodies are different, and different people respond to different things. The only way to figure out what you like is by good ol’ trial and error.
I can’t think of many tricks except maybe that a vibrating cock ring can turn any internal vibrator or dildo into a custom “twice as nice” style toy. Also, in the event of a zombie attack or apocalypse, the Eleven can be used as a deadly defense tool.
4) How has being a sex educator changed how you think about sexuality or gender? Was there anything that surprised you about that?
I don’t think it’s so much that my views have changed, it’s more that I interpret and talk about sexuality and gender differently now. I’ve learned to make as few assumptions as humanly possible. I didn’t even think I was someone who made assumptions before becoming a SESA, but discussing sex and gender constantly really brings those things to the surface. I have to start every interaction from scratch, and that’s something that I’ve carried into my personal life as well. No assumptions, no judgments, and you can never use enough lube.
5) Anything else you’d like to tell our readers?
Sunscreen is not a lubricant you should use on, in, or around your genitals.
Drawing by Slaughter