Ask the Doctors: Stretching the Labia

I want to stretch my labia. Does Good Vibrations have any tools or how-to books on doing it? Or do you have any advice for me? Thank you!

I’m aware of three techniques that can be used to do this. Please be aware that the results you get from them may vary, since not everyone’s body responds the same way. You might also be interested in the work and insight of Fakir Musafar, at (NSFW!) — he’s at the center of the so-called “Body Play” movement and knows as much about this stuff as probably anyone else. I asked if he has relevant material about this and he said “Lots” — so look around his site to see what kind of extra insight you might be able to find.

You can massage and stretch your labia by hand. Use lubricant or oil, and you’ll have better results if your flesh is warm (like in a hot bath or shower). This technique has, as a plus, that lots of contact with your labia may be arousing — so perhaps you can find time to masturbate, too! If you try this method of stretching you will definitely need to do it frequently, and it may take some time to see results.

You can weight them with clip-on weights. The disadvantage here is that clips shouldn’t be worn for long stretches of time; they pinch the blood out of the area you attach them to, and it’s not a good idea to impair circulation for long. You might also find the clipping process to be uncomfortable, but some people like it. If you choose to do this, you can start with nipple clamps, which we carry at Good Vibes — the larger the area of the clamp, the better, and they can’t be TOO tight — just tight enough not to fall off.

Your final option, and in a way the best one, is to pierce your labia and gradually add larger-gauge (by which I really mean smaller-gauge — the lower the number, the larger the piercing gauge) jewelry. The more heavy jewelry you add, the more the labia will stretch, and you can add to the stretch by massaging with clean oil. Don’t use your rings from which to suspend weights, says Fakir, who also notes that any enlargement of piercings (or involving pierced tissue) must be done in small increments and that you must resist any urge to use tapers to enlarge the piercing.

I encourage you to confer with any piercing studio you might use, if you choose this option, to see how much experience they have with this practice. Try to find piercing experts to guide you with information if you can.

One caveat about this — genital tissue is both rather fragile and pretty hardy. Too much pulling can leave you with vulva abrasions, and if you do any sort of genital piercing you must be scrupulous about following post-procedure care and keeping your piercing site clean, not to mention stretching the piercing site very carefully. But the tissue also tends to revert to its original state, so you may need to keep up the stretching over time.

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Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at

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