Ask the Doctors: Is it Safe to Use My Vibrator During Pregnancy?

I am on my first trimester of pregnancy and I miss using my magic wand vibrator.  For some reason I feel that the strong vibrations are going to harm my baby. Is that true?

Thanks for your help!  I would love to start using my wand again if it is safe.
— Missing Wanda

If your ob/gyn has warned you against orgasm, you should avoid the magic wand (and everything else that might make you climax). If they warned you against sexual activity but did not mention orgasm, ASK whether that includes orgasm — there are separate reasons why orgasm and vaginal penetration might be contraindicated, but both of these are things your doc would — or SHOULD! — speak to you about. Next time you have an appointment, to be certain, ask the doc whether it is OK to continue sexual activity and to have orgasms, and see what s/he says. Another warning sign might be a statement like, “You are at risk for premature labor.” These are not super-common problems, please don’t be afraid, but to ease your mind, ask.

Pregnancy-info.net says:

“While sex during pregnancy can be a lot of fun, there are certain warning signs to look out for when you are experiencing orgasms. Warning signs include:

  • very painful contractions
  • uterine cramps lasting longer than one hour
  • unusual or heavy vaginal bleeding

Though rare, these signs could indicate that you are experiencing preterm labor or miscarriage, and you should visit with your health care provider immediately.”

Sheknows.com says:

“In certain high risk pregnancies (premature labor, incompetent cervix, multiple gestations, placenta previa), ‘pelvic rest’ is advocated to decrease the possibility of premature labor or bleeding.”

Other than that, using both your vibes should be fine. Don’t be surprised if orgasms feel different while you’re pregnant, possibly stronger than usual, because your pelvis is so suffused with blood that your sexual response from arousal through orgasm can be affected.


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Dr. Carol Queen

Carol Queen has a PhD in sexology; she calls herself a "cultural sexologist" because her earlier academic degree is in sociology: while she addresses individual issues and couple's sexual concerns, her overarching interest is in cultural issues (gender, shame, access to education, etc.). Queen has worked at Good Vibrations, the woman-founded sexuality company based in San Francisco that turned 35 years old in 2012, since 1990. Her current position is Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian; her roles include representing the company to the press and the public; overseeing educational programming for staff and others; and scripting/hosting a line of sex education videos, the Pleasure-Ed series, for GV’s sister company Good Releasing. She also curates the company's Antique Vibrator Museum. She is also the founding director of the Center for Sex & Culture, a non-profit sex ed and arts center San Francisco, and is a frequent lecturer at colleges, universities, and community-based organizations. Her dozen books include a Lambda Literary Award winner, PoMoSexuals, and Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture, which are used as texts in some college classes. She blogs at the Good Vibes Magazine and at SFGate's City Brights bloggers page and contributes to the Boston Dig. For more about her at carolqueen.com.

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