One of my 4-year-old twin daughters is a balls-to-the-wall, head-first-diving, highest-tree-climbing, 800-meter-running, outlasting-the-Duracell-battery-rabbit, dress-wearing-in-the-dirt, worm-collecting, stunning beauty of a kid. The other is a boy. When I say she is a boy, I mean just that. She’ll tell you, “I am a boy.” I also mean that “she.” She is a “she.” At least for
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Ten Baffling Things That People Say to a New Erotic E-Book Publisher
Ten Baffling Things That People Say to a New Erotic E-Book Publisher 1. So, I wrote this manuscript from the point of view of a male Dom. Is that okay? Editors don’t usually let me do that, seeing as I’m a woman. 2. I’m sorry, we can’t review your collection because only three out of
The Exclusivity of Inclusion: Why I don’t Identify as Queer
I’m not sure when the switchover happened. It may have been when the term “queer” was reappropriated two decades ago. Or when we went from an 8 letter acronym to an umbrella term, sweeping up every imaginable non-heteronormative and non-heterosexual (unless your sexual activities or orientation place you outside the hetero-defined mainstream) identity out from
Come Support Planned Parenthood Shasta Pacific!
Sexual health is an essential part of creating sexual pleasure and there’s no organization that brings that to so many people as Planned Parenthood. We’re proud to be supporting three different Planned Parenthood affiliates through our GiVe program and 100% of your donations will go directly to them. We’re also hosting a store tour and fundraiser
True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being
This post first appeared on The Frisky. A few years ago …. Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago —
The Summit is Coming! The Summit is Coming!
No two days are alike at my job at Good Vibrations — there’s always a different interview topic, customer question to answer, presentation to give. But this Saturday will be a rare one indeed, and even more fabulous than usual: I welcome eighteen terrific thinkers, writers, activists, academics, and inspiring colleagues to the first-ever Good
Scary Sexy: Why “sexy” Halloween costumes are terrifying
In 2004 Mean Girls summed up Halloween costumes thusly “Halloween is the one night a year when a girl can dress like a total slut and no other girls can say anything about it.” Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last couple of years you know that October 31 has become a
Sex Legislation in Measure B and Prop 35
Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Maggie Mayhem. Election season is bound to be a flurry of fervent pleas, argumentative dinners, tense car rides, sign postings, and then fatigue and apathy. I’m one of the underdog political terriers who is part of a contingent of people who know the feel of cold marble
My Gender Variance (or, How Can You be Two People at Once when You’re Really Nobody at all?)
I’m slow. Yup, I admit it. Not slow as in “can’t tie my shoes” or figure out how to eat peanut butter without an instruction manual. I mean slow as in “I need (and often need to take) time” to figure something out, to analyze an idea or a piece of writing to make sense
Are WE Sex Positive?
What does “Sex Positive” really mean? I find myself asking that all the time. It’s constantly running in the background of my brain as I take in the barrage of commentary about sex that we face on a daily basis. At the gym, yesterday, I saw a segment on E! TV in which Kelly Osbourne
