Are you monogamous? Poly? Open? Weighing your options? Going with the flow? The way to structure one’s relationship has become a choice, hasn’t it? Not too long ago, Monogamy was the assumed structure of relationships. It is still the default structure, meaning most people in committed relationships are monogamous (or at least claim to be,)
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Terms of Your Service
As part of your service, I want you to agree to and to remember the following: Don’t point. Don’t stick your tongue out. Don’t talk under your breath. Don’t leave something half done, then just walk away. I want you to remember that you are always my treasure. I want you to remember that you
Going Down? …I Think I’ll Take the Stairs
A little while ago, I went to a sexual empowerment workshop. I don’t know exactly what I was expecting, but I left feeling quite shaken and exposed, like a nerve had been touched and I wasn’t sure why. At the end of the workshop, each of the approximately 40 participants had to announce to the
Staying Present During Sex
A lot of people disembody during sex. Disembodiment is a process by which you – in some way – mentally or spiritually separate from your body. Yes, you’re technically there, but you’re not there there. I mean, it’s not just during sex that people disembody (it can happen on a bus, plane or train, while
Doing the DTR: How to Discuss/Define the Relationship without Destroying the Relationship
In the past two years I have been in a few romantic relationships that lasted several months, all with feelings and expectations that went beyond sex, and in some cases approached commitment. Inevitably, at some point in each relationship, we reached a moment when we had to DTR: Discuss/Define the Relationship. Coming off the break-up
Sensual Snuggles & The Importance of Touch
Baby, it’s cold outside, and the holiday season is upon us whether you like it or not. This is the time of year where we’re expected to uphold holiday cheer, nestle in with our sweeties by the fire, and travel for hours to be with family. It’s also full of stress, family drama and other
Why I Blog About Sex
Freelance writing can be tough: it requires a lot of hustle, an ability to follow up and deliver what you promise, and, in my case, a well-stocked selection of lube so I can test new and exciting sex products. It requires a few quiet hours every week to devote to reading erotica. I puzzle over
Snuggle on!!
My lover has 2 boys, 7 and 10 years old. We have been dating a couple months now and every date for a long while was when his ex-wife had his kids. We had hung out with my boys, 8 and 13 years old, but never his. Recently we scheduled a weekend together and his
Sex Blogging and the Golden Rule
I recently encountered a situation I’d never run into before; I was dating someone, and blogging for Good Vibrations, and I wondered what the ethics were about disclosure with my partner. The conundrum was this; if I knew he were reading every word I wrote, I might feel inhibited from saying everything I felt like
Cherry Picking: Let’s Rethink Virginity
When I lost my virginity it was an intellectual rather than a physical act. I’ll explain in a minute. The “losing the virginity” narrative is one that I think we are all familiar with: Virgin is shy and inexperienced. Virgin has penis-in-vagina intercourse. No-longer-Virgin has now been inducted into the world of the sexually
