I see a lot of posts from new folks asking for tips on all sorts of things, like how to meet a play partner (or a dominant, a submissive, an owner… etc), how to start talking to people, how to dress… etc. And while I hold no leather title, am not an internationally recognized kink
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True Story: I Can Be A Kinky Feminist & A Messy Human Being
This post first appeared on The Frisky. A few years ago …. Today, in 2012, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago —
Drawing the Line
Discussions of sex and consent often stress the importance of being clear about your boundaries, speaking up when someone crosses a line and does something that makes you uncomfortable. But no one ever talks about defining this line for yourself. How are you supposed to figure out what you’re comfortable with when you’re worrying about
Flagging Femme
The first time I met Shilo was at my apartment. She was there to photograph me for The Sex Positive Photo Project, and having two drawers filled with “for photo shoots and sex only” outfits and shoes I was thrilled to be her model. After a bottle of pink moscato she and Airial Clark (who
50 Shades of Obsessing with Spanking
The current Fifty Shades of Grey mania has apparently gotten more women into spanking lately. Sex-toy shops gleefully report an increase in sale of bondage toys; even hardware stores are reporting an influx of new customers — mostly women — shopping for rope. People are drawn to bondage for all sorts of reasons. In our
Kitchen Assault
Evan walked through the front door and sighed as the tantalizing aromas of his wife’s cooking hit him. He inhaled deeply, trying to identify what wonderful concoction Melissa had created today. Making his way to the kitchen, Evan was surprised to find his wife absent from her favorite room. As always, the gleaming kitchen was
Ask the Doctors: Kink for Beginners?
I’m wondering if you’d be willing to part with some of your wisdom. I’ve got a friend who is just discovering his kink side. He’s married and his wife is pretty open but fairly vanilla. He’s discovering he’s a bottom and is into all kinds of fun things. She’s willing to play along but doesn’t
Kept Waiting
She stood outside the door to his room, waiting for him. Strong hands slipped a midnight blue satin band over her eyes. She was panting in anticipation; just knowing he intended to punish her tonight made her wet with desire. Reaching past her he pushed opened the door; she stepped forward immediately, craving what was
His and Hers Punishment
“The flogger? The crop? Or just my bare hand?” She was smiling, but it was not a gentle smile. Not the same smile as when they were sitting on the couch together, talking and curled up against each other. Not like the one she’d give him when he brought flowers home to her, or a
13 Awesome Fetishes You May Not Know (And How to Try Them): Part One
I was on Facebook, wasting time, when I came across a link to a post called “Top Ten Strangest Sexual Fetishes“. There’s tons of these lists out there, and frankly, I haven’t seen one that hasn’t been shaming people in one way or another: “I guess that I can see a teddy bear’s resemblance to a vagina.
