I’m in the midst of a rather life-changing decision process. As I have noted here before, my whole sense of who I am around gender is a big part of my life. It’s been slow to unwind, and I’ve certainly been up and down a lot on what to do. Complications present themselves in the
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One of my 4-year-old twin daughters is a balls-to-the-wall, head-first-diving, highest-tree-climbing, 800-meter-running, outlasting-the-Duracell-battery-rabbit, dress-wearing-in-the-dirt, worm-collecting, stunning beauty of a kid. The other is a boy. When I say she is a boy, I mean just that. She’ll tell you, “I am a boy.” I also mean that “she.” She is a “she.” At least for
The first card. X. Wheel of Fortune. A fearsome dragon, drawn in the solid Cubist-style of the Mayans, stares at her as if considering whether to devour or to crush her. This is a symbol of fire which changes and destroys but also purifies and refines. She sets it to the left. Next card. XV.
In 2004 Mean Girls summed up Halloween costumes thusly “Halloween is the one night a year when a girl can dress like a total slut and no other girls can say anything about it.” Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last couple of years you know that October 31 has become a
I’m slow. Yup, I admit it. Not slow as in “can’t tie my shoes” or figure out how to eat peanut butter without an instruction manual. I mean slow as in “I need (and often need to take) time” to figure something out, to analyze an idea or a piece of writing to make sense
Bisexual. Namely, being a femme bisexual woman. It feels antiquated. Wrong somehow, like it shows “why yes there only is a gender binary and a bisexual person oscillates between these two” and “please teach me about the gender binary because I used this word so I obviously need to expand my mind”. It misses the
(click here for the full-size image) I’ve had an ongoing discussion about her body and sexuality with my daughter before she could verbally talk. Most recently, that conversation has broadened to address the wide range of sexual fluidity among people. The “new” normal is that there is no “normal,” as Dr. Peggy Drexler points out.
Here at Good Vibrations, we’ve always proud supporters of gender rights. In a world in which transgender people face incredibly high rates of employment discrimination, we know how important is is for genderqueer, gender non-conforming, transgender, and other gender minority folks to have a safe place to work. We were among the earliest companies to develop
“Are you a boy or a girl?” For a lot of people, it’s a black and white answer, but when my daughter asks it to a genderqueer friend of ours… “It’s complicated,” is the answer she receives. I think that was a wonderful and fitting answer to her first steps in learning about gender. The