Sex is often, in our society, put into a framework that puts extraordinary focus on penile insertion into a vagina. Of course that is, for many people, a highly pleasurable and desired part of sex—but some guys who ejaculate quicker than they want to may develop especially high levels of anxiety about this because for them, intercourse is THE sexual activity, not one of many ways to enjoy sex.
Category: Sex & Relationships
For some women, faking orgasm helps them get into the eroticism of sex and actually helps make the whole scene more pleasurable. Well, all righty, then! I stand corrected, a little. I still think it’d be preferable for everyone to just learn how to have good sex, so that women can take their impressive thespian abilities down to the Little Theatre, or participate in rousing games of Charades. Or how about a nice role-play!
Arousal gets higher and your sexual feelings more intense, until they crest or come to a climax — including a feeling of satisfaction and release. (All these terms are a bit subjective, aren’t they? That’s one reason it can be hard to grasp the reality of what an orgasm actually is. The other thing is that we so frequently hear orgasm described in metaphorical terms: firecrackers! Volcanoes! Expressive, but not really helpful.)
This First Family lives in the present, a present in which discourse about rape and rape culture has gotten more mainstream attention than it arguably ever has; and in the near future, this First Family will have a couple of young women in college. The personal, as we have been telling you since about 1969, is political.