What would it take for our culture to be fully sex-positive? What are the elements that would get us there? … If anyone, no matter how sexually frisky and happy they are, tries to use the notion of sex-positivity to judge someone else’s sexual orientation, gender expression, sexual choices, or sexual response, they are not behaving in a sex-positive fashion. Period. (And they’re misusing the term.) When you are sex-positive, you get that you are not like everybody else, and that’s all good.